Sat, 08 Feb 2025 14:30:13 -0800WeeblyTue, 04 Feb 2025 00:55:30 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/deepening-connections-through-love-languagesThe desire to love and be loved is a fundamental part of the human experience, but sometimes our expressions of love can get lost in translation. One reason for this is differing "love languages." Dr. Gary Chapman, a renowned psychologist and author, identified five main love languages that influence how we express and experience love emotionally. These love languages are present in all types of relationships, and understanding them can help you connect more deeply with your loved ones, not just on special occasions, but every day of the year.
To help you show your care in the way that speaks most meaningfully to each person, we’ve compiled a list of ideas tailored to each love language.

Acts of Service
For those who speak this love language, actions truly speak louder than words. “Let me do this for you” is the expression of love they long to hear.

• Prepare their favorite meal and clean up the kitchen afterward.
• Surprise them with breakfast in bed and give them time to relax.
• Get their car detailed for them, showing your attention to their comfort.
• Take care of the household task they dread most, without them asking.

Receiving Gifts
Though often mistaken for materialism, this love language thrives on the thoughtfulness and effort behind the gift. It’s not about the item itself, but the love it represents.

• Create a personalized gift basket with their favorite treats and items.
• Handmake a card instead of buying one to show your unique affection.
• Ask for a wish list and surprise them with a couple of thoughtfully chosen items.

Quality Time
For those whose primary love language is quality time, nothing says "I love you" like your undivided attention. They want to feel cherished and prioritized in your presence.

• Plan a road trip to a place they’ve always wanted to visit.
• Gift an experience such as a hot air balloon ride, show tickets, or a whale-watching excursion.
• Host a cozy game night or plan a dinner date at a quiet, intimate restaurant.
• Take a class together—whether it's cooking, art, dancing, or wine tasting—creating memories as you learn something new.

Words of Affirmation
This love language is all about using words to uplift and affirm others. Compliments, encouragement, and kind words mean the world to someone who thrives on verbal affection.

• Offer genuine compliments daily, whether for their appearance, actions, or character.
• Write a heartfelt letter or a thoughtful message in a card.
• Post small notes of love, encouragement, or affirmations around the house for them to find.
• Make a list of qualities you adore about them and share it aloud, reminding them of their worth.

Physical Touch
For those who speak the language of physical touch, nothing conveys love more deeply than appropriate, affectionate touch.

• Cozy up together on the couch with blankets and pillows for a movie night.
• Take a walk hand in hand, enjoying each other’s company.
• Explore dance classes together to connect through movement.
• Treat them to a massage or a relaxing foot rub.
• Draw them a warm bath or offer a soothing back rub.

 
Regardless of your love language, you can mix and match these ideas to connect in meaningful ways with those you care about. Building and nurturing relationships is an ongoing process, and if you find yourself needing support to improve or strengthen your connection, our team of compassionate counselors is here to help. Whether you’re an individual, couple, or family, we offer guidance at every stage of your relationship.
For assistance, please reach out to us at 909-985-0513 to schedule an appointment.

]]>Mon, 20 Jan 2025 20:51:42 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/new-year-new-mindset-embrace-mindfulness-for-better-mental-healthAs we welcomed the new year, many of us set resolutions or intentions for self-improvement. While goals often focus on physical health or productivity, it's equally important to prioritize our mental health. One powerful way to nurture our minds and build resilience in the year ahead is by integrating mindfulness practices into our daily routines.

What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the practice of paying full attention to the present moment without judgment. It involves being aware of your thoughts, feelings, sensations, and the environment around you. Rather than reacting impulsively or getting lost in worries about the past or future, mindfulness encourages a gentle awareness and acceptance of what’s happening right now.

Why Mindfulness Matters for Mental Health
Research has shown that mindfulness can significantly improve mental well-being. By cultivating mindfulness, individuals can:

• Reduce Stress and Anxiety: Mindfulness helps us regulate our reactions to stress, creating a sense of calm even in challenging situations. It can also reduce symptoms of anxiety by encouraging a shift away from overthinking and worry.
• Enhance Emotional Resilience: By being more in tune with our emotions, mindfulness allows us to experience feelings without becoming overwhelmed or avoiding them. This builds emotional resilience and improves our ability to cope with life's ups and downs.
• Improve Focus and Clarity: Mindfulness sharpens concentration and enhances cognitive function. It allows us to be more present in our tasks, which can increase productivity and bring a greater sense of satisfaction to daily activities.
• Cultivate Compassion: By practicing mindfulness, we develop a nonjudgmental awareness of ourselves and others. This can increase empathy and compassion, both for ourselves, and for those around us.

Simple Mindfulness Practices to Try in 2025
As you go forward in the new year, consider adopting these simple mindfulness practices to improve your mental health:

1. Mindful Breathing: Set aside a few minutes each day to focus on your breath. Sit quietly, close your eyes, and take slow, deep breaths. If your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to the sensation of your breath entering and leaving your body.
2. Body Scan: Take a moment to tune into how your body feels. Starting from your toes, slowly move up your body, paying attention to any sensations, tension, or discomfort. This practice can help you release physical and emotional stress.
3. Gratitude Practice: Each day, take a moment to reflect on what you're grateful for. Whether big or small, acknowledging the positive aspects of your life can shift your perspective and help you focus on the present moment.
4. Mindful Walking: Go for a walk and use the time to be fully aware of your surroundings. Pay attention to the sights, sounds, and smells around you. This practice can ground you in the present and provide a welcome break from daily stress.

Commit to Self-Care in the New Year
Remember that your mental health is just as important as your physical health. Incorporating mindfulness into your routine can help create a more peaceful, balanced state of mind and help you navigate the inevitable challenges life brings. By dedicating time to mindfulness, you can strengthen your emotional well-being and set a foundation for a healthier, happier year ahead.

Samaritan Counseling Center is here to support you on your mental health journey. We are here to help! Call us at 909-985-0513 to schedule an appointment with one of our caring counselors.

Sources: newsinhealth.nih.gov, https://www.chop.edu/news/mindfulness]]>Tue, 05 Nov 2024 22:51:36 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/navigating-grief-during-the-holidays-finding-hope-healing​As the holiday season approaches, it often brings a whirlwind of emotions—joy, nostalgia, and sometimes, deep sorrow. For those who have experienced loss, this time of year can be particularly challenging. At Samaritan Counseling Center, we understand that navigating grief during this time can be difficult. Below are some suggestions that may help. 

Acknowledge Your Emotions
Grief is a personal journey, and it’s important to honor your feelings, whatever they may be. Allow yourself the space to experience your emotions without judgment. Whether it’s sadness, anger, or even moments of joy, allowing yourself to experience these emotions can be healing. Be compassionate with yourself. Self-compassion is the ability to take note of your own suffering, feel it and extend warmth and care to yourself just as you would to a dear friend.

Create New Traditions
Consider creating new traditions in memory of your loved one. This could be lighting a candle in their honor, sharing stories about them during family gatherings, or volunteering in their name. Engaging in meaningful acts can provide comfort and keep their memory alive.

Lean on Your Faith
Many find solace in their faith during difficult times. Take time for prayer or meditation, reflecting on the hope and love that your beliefs provide. Attend services or support groups within your community where you can connect with others who may be experiencing similar feelings.

Set Boundaries & Take Care of Yourself
It’s okay to set boundaries during the holidays. If certain events or gatherings feel overwhelming, prioritize your well-being. Communicate with family and friends about your needs, whether that means taking a step back or simply attending for a shorter time.

Reach Out for Support
You don’t have to travel this journey alone. Consider attending a grief group, it can be comforting to talk with people who understand what you’re going through. Reach out to friends, family, or a counselor who can provide support and understanding. Our caring counselors are here to help, offering a safe space for you to express your feelings and explore ways to cope with your grief.
 
Remember, You Are Not Alone
Grief is a journey that requires time and patience. As you navigate the holiday season, know that it’s perfectly normal to feel a mix of emotions. Embracing small joys can provide balance and remind you that love persists, even after loss.
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We are here to help! Call us at 909-985-0513 to make an appointment.]]>Thu, 10 Oct 2024 19:50:03 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/october-10th-2024Domestic violence is a insidious issue that affects individuals and families regardless of background. It goes beyond socioeconomic status, race, and gender, impacting the lives of countless individuals in both visible and invisible ways. Domestic violence encompasses a range of abusive behaviors used by one partner to gain or maintain power and control over another in an intimate relationship. It can manifest as physical violence, emotional abuse, psychological manipulation, financial control, and even sexual assault.

Signs of Domestic Violence
Recognizing the signs of domestic violence can be critical in helping someone in need. Some common indicators include:

• Physical Signs: Unexplained bruises, cuts, or frequent injuries.
• Behavioral Changes: Withdrawal from friends and family, fearfulness, symptoms of anxiety and depression (not explained by other mental health issue).
• Control Tactics: The abuser may monitor activities, be excessively jealous, or isolate their partner from their support system.
• Financial Control: The abuser may restrict access to money or financial resources, making the victim financially dependent.

The Impact of Domestic Violence
The consequences of domestic violence can be devastating and long-lasting. Victims may experience:

• Emotional and Psychological Effects: Symptoms of anxiety, depression, PTSD, and low self-worth.
• Physical Health Issues: Chronic pain, gastrointestinal disorders, and other health problems stemming from abuse.
• Social Isolation: Loss of support networks and social connections, leading to increased vulnerability.

How We Can Help:
At Samaritan, we offer:

• Counseling Services: Individual therapy for adults, children, and families affected by domestic violence.
• Support Group for Survivors: Teach coping skills to maintain a healthy lifestyle and find and healing.
• Safety Planning: Assistance in creating personalized safety plans.
• Resource Referrals: Therapists can provide connections to shelters, legal aid, financial support, etc.

For more information or to make an appointment, contact us at 909-985-0513 or visit www.SamaritanCares.org.
 

]]>Tue, 06 Aug 2024 21:43:42 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/back-to-school-anxiety-a-parents-guideAs a new school year approaches, many children and teens eagerly anticipate reuniting with friends, embracing new experiences, and tackling fresh learning opportunities. However, this transition can also bring anxiety, especially if last year was challenging or they’re starting at a new school. By preparing your child with the right tools, you can help them manage back-to-school stress and thrive both academically and emotionally.

1. Organize with a Calendar
Before school begins, help your child or teen create a calendar that includes activities, projects, social events, and holidays. Whether using a traditional planner or a digital app, make sure to emphasize the importance of noting everything. Regularly review deadlines together to keep them on track. Younger children may need more guidance with time management, while teens can be encouraged to take charge of their own schedules.

2. Familiarize with the School Environment
If possible, arrange a visit to the school. For younger kids, practice the school drop-off routine and walk with them to their classroom. Teens should be encouraged to explore their class schedule, locate their locker, the lunch area, and restrooms. Being familiar with the school environment can significantly reduce stress, especially for students with sensory concerns.

3. Establish Healthy Routines
Create consistent routines before school starts. Ensure your child gets adequate sleep—teens need 8 to 10 hours a night. This might be challenging with extracurricular activities and screen time. If sleep becomes an issue, consider adjusting or reducing activities and limiting screen time before bed. Removing phones from the bedroom can also aid restful sleep. A balanced diet and regular physical activity further contribute to reducing anxiety and enhancing mental well-being.

4. Plan for Special Educational Needs
If your child has a diagnosis that affects their school performance, request an Individualized Education Plan (IEP) or a 504 Plan. These plans can provide necessary support and accommodations. For instance, an anxiety plan might include extra time for assignments or a quiet space for tests. For students with nervous habits, the plan might include opportunities to take breaks or perform errands.

5. Offer Emotional Support
Encourage open communication by letting your child know they can talk to you about anything. Engage in conversations about the best parts of their day, the importance of supportive friendships, and how to handle bullying. Discuss strategies for resolving conflicts with peers and authority figures at school. Always stop to listen when your child shares their concerns and reassure them that you are their ally and biggest supporter.

6. Seek Professional Help if Needed
If your child’s back-to-school anxiety persists beyond the initial weeks, consider consulting a mental health professional. Early intervention can prevent symptoms from worsening and help your child develop effective coping strategies.

We are here to help! Call 909-985-0513 to schedule an appointment with one of our caring counselors.
]]>Wed, 12 Jun 2024 23:14:24 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/breaking-the-silence-addressing-mens-mental-health-needsHealth is more than just the absence of illness; it encompasses mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, and relational well-being. However, in our society, men often face unique challenges when it comes to addressing their mental health. They are expected to "man up" and handle problems independently. Yet, statistics indicate that this has detrimental consequences, leading many men to suffer in silence rather than seek help.

Consider these statistics and men's mental health needs:

• Nearly 1 in 10 men in America experience depression and anxiety, with over 6 million men in the U.S. displaying symptoms of depression annually and more than 3 million experiencing an anxiety disorder.
• Men die by suicide 3.5 times more than women, often due to untreated depression. Men's depression may manifest as irritability and anger, further complicating their ability to seek help.
• Approximately 6 out of 10 men suffer at least one trauma in their lifetime, often related to physical assault, combat, accidents, or witnessing injury and death. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can significantly impact daily life, causing symptoms such as avoidance, hypervigilance, nightmares, and relationship problems.
• Men are nearly twice as likely to binge drink than women, leading to higher rates of alcohol-related deaths, hospitalizations, and suicides.

Despite these challenges, with help, there is cause for hope and a pathway to healing. Recognizing and addressing mental health concerns is not a sign of weakness. On the contrary, it takes great strength to acknowledge one's struggles and reach out for support. We are here to help! If you or someone you know is struggling with a mental health issue, please call us at 909-985-0513. ]]>Fri, 24 May 2024 20:23:45 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/move-more-for-your-mental-healthIn a world where the pace of life seems to accelerate daily, taking a moment to prioritize mental health is crucial. While conversations surrounding mental well-being often focus on therapy, medication, or mindfulness practices, there's another powerful tool often overlooked: movement.
 
Physical activity has long been celebrated for its benefits to physical health, but its profound impact on mental well-being is just as noteworthy. Whether it's a walk with a friend, a heart-pounding run, a yoga session, or a dance class, movement in any form can be a powerful remedy for the mind.
 
Below are some compelling reasons why integrating movement into your routine can be a game-changer for your mental health:
 
1. Mood Enhancement: Have you ever experienced a "runner's high" or felt a wave of euphoria after a satisfying workout? That's not just endorphins; physical activity triggers the release of neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine, often referred to as the brain's "feel-good" chemicals. These neurotransmitters play a crucial role in regulating mood, promoting feelings of happiness and relaxation.
 
2. Stress Reduction: Life can be stressful, but exercise offers a natural and effective way to combat it. Physical activity lowers the body's stress hormones, such as cortisol, while simultaneously increasing the production of endorphins, which act as natural stress relievers. Engaging in regular exercise can help alleviate symptoms of anxiety and depression, providing mental rest from life's pressures.
 
3. Improved Sleep Quality: Quality sleep is essential for mental health, and exercise can significantly impact the duration and depth of your rest. Physical activity helps regulate the body's internal clock, promoting better sleep patterns. Additionally, the relaxation-inducing effects of exercise can ease insomnia and enhance overall sleep quality, leaving you feeling more refreshed and rejuvenated each morning.
 
4. Boosted Self-Confidence: Engaging in regular physical activity can improve self-confidence and body image. As you set and achieve fitness goals, whether it's running your first 5k or mastering a challenging yoga pose, you gain a sense of accomplishment and empowerment. Moreover, the physical changes that accompany exercise, such as improved strength and stamina, can enhance confidence and self-worth, contributing to overall mental well-being.
 
5. Social Connection: Many forms of exercise offer opportunities for social interaction, whether it's joining a sports team, attending group fitness classes, or simply going for a walk with a friend. These social connections provide a valuable support system, fostering a sense of belonging and camaraderie. Building and nurturing relationships through physical activity can combat feelings of loneliness and isolation, promoting mental resilience and emotional well-being.

Incorporating movement into your daily routine doesn't have to be daunting. Start small by taking short walks during breaks or trying out different physical activities until you find what you enjoy. Remember, the goal isn't perfection but consistency. Even a little movement each day can yield significant benefits for your mental health.]]>Fri, 12 Apr 2024 23:39:41 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/cyclical-grieving-and-the-path-to-acceptanceMany parents of children with autism, and other developmental disabilities, experience something known as cyclical grieving. This grief is processed differently than parents experiencing other grave losses, even the loss of a child. The grieving process typically involves five stages (denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance) that may or may not be experienced in order and some stages may not be experienced at all. Grieving is a healthy process of healing, leading to a destination of acceptance of a finite loss. Cyclical grief, however, emerges and re-emerges for a special needs parent over the life span of their child with autism. The word cyclical in this context refers to the emotions experienced in the initial stages of grief. These emotions include, but are not limited to anger, anxiety, denial, depression, guilt, helplessness, loneliness, sadness, frustration, and disbelief.

There are a variety of events that can trigger cyclical grieving. Starting with the diagnosis, many parents grieve the idea of the child they were going to have, the relationship they thought they’d have, and the life that child would lead. They may not feel qualified or prepared to raise a child with autism and meet their needs. As the child atypically develops, the parent may experience deep sadness when friends’ children hit milestones and their child does not. This can be recurring, as there are a multitude of lifelong developmental milestones (e.g., first words, walking, riding a bike, making a friend, driving, transitioning to college or career, getting married).

The parent may feel frustrated and exhausted fighting to secure services and advocate for their child. This can cause them to feel overwhelmed and ignore or minimize their own needs in the process. “In addition to experiencing high levels of chronic stress, anxiety, and depression, parents of children with disabilities are faced with the heartbreaking limitations that exist in a world where not all children are included, considered, and prioritized in the same ways” (Munoz 2017). 

This leads to another powerful emotion that parents of children with special needs often feel in cyclical grieving - guilt. They may feel guilty because they missed the signs and got their child a late diagnosis or they can’t provide the extra support the child needs. They may just feel guilty that they can’t change the times their child has been excluded, mistreated, or unwanted by others.

It is important to know that these feelings are normal, and they need to be acknowledged and talked about. “These strong feelings are going to be experienced by most parents/caregivers of children on the autism spectrum because of the great love they feel for their children” (Hetzel, 2018). However, periods of grief are woven throughout times of great happiness for parents of children with autism. Every goal met, every unexpected milestone achieved, and every new skill mastered brings immeasurable joy as they learn to accept life with autism.
If you are a parent of a child on the autism spectrum or other developmental disability and are experiencing these emotions, you are not alone. Samaritan is here to support you! Call us at 909-985-0513 to make an appointment with one of our caring counselors.

Sources:
Hetzel, Ann Psy.D. Cyclical Grieving for Parents of Children with Autism. Hopebridge.com, 2018
Munoz, Alicia, LPC. Self-Care Tips for Parents of Special Needs Children. Goodtherapy.com, 2017.
]]>Thu, 07 Mar 2024 21:16:48 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/self-care-for-special-needs-parentsIn the struggle to increase educational and social opportunities for children with disabilities, their parents/caregivers bear the burden of advocating for and securing necessary services, resources, and support. This can cause them to feel overwhelmed and ignore or minimize their own needs in the process. “In addition to experiencing high levels of chronic stress, anxiety, and depression, parents of children with disabilities are faced with the heartbreaking limitations that exist in a world where not all children are included, considered, and prioritized in the same ways” (Munoz 2017).

Every day, our Behavior Specialists work with these parents providing in-home behavior intervention services and training. They witness the extra resilience, perseverance, compassion, and resourcefulness required of these parents/caregivers and how critical their self-care is to the well-being of their families. If you or someone you love is the parent of a child with special needs, keep reading for ways you can make self-care a priority.
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• Don’t be afraid to ask for help. It’s more than likely you have friends and family that want to help you but may not know how. Help them by being specific about your needs. Ask a friend to pick up groceries or bring you a meal if they like to cook. Perhaps a neighbor can drop off and pick up your other children at school. If you have a friend who is good at administrative tasks have them help you with scheduling appointments, finances, or documentation for school and other providers.
• Take time for yourself. Make a habit of scheduling “me” time. Even just 15 minutes a day of time to yourself can reduce stress, help you be a better parent, and prevent caregiver burnout. Take a walk, talk with a friend, curl up and read a book, do whatever it is that you enjoy and will help you relax.
• Find and use respite services. Sometimes parents of children with disabilities and special needs feel pressured to do it all on their own. However, allowing a trained professional to care for your child sometimes may give both of you positive time apart. It can also help you preserve your emotional and mental resources, helping you keep up your strength in parenting.
• Join a support group. Finding a support group of parents whose children face similar challenges can help you to feel like you’re not alone. Support groups provide a non-judgmental space where you can vent, share your worries, fears, grief, and anger with people who “get” you like no one else can. You may also learn about new resources or develop new strategies by hearing what other parents are doing.
• Seek professional help if needed. A professional can help give you the tools to teach your child to become as independent as possible, regulate their emotions, and live to their fullest potential. You also may benefit from a counselor giving you a space to grieve, share your victories, and process your frustrations. Professional help is essential if you find yourself overwhelmed, depressed, anxious, or have trouble coping and functioning. 

We are here to help. Call us at 909-985-0513 to schedule a counseling appointment or to learn more about our  Behavior Education And Management Services (BEAMS) program providing in-home behavior intervention services and parent training for families living with developmental disabilities.

  References:

1. Children with disabilities (2017). Retrieved from www.globalpartenership.org/focus-areas/children-with-disabilities
2. Self-Care Tips for Parents of Special Needs Children (2017). Retrieved from www.goodtherapy.org

]]>Thu, 08 Feb 2024 22:57:35 GMThttp://samaritancares.org/newsletters-events--inspiration/what-do-healthy-relationships-looks-likeOne of Samaritan's specialties is working with individuals and couples to help them recognize, build, and improve healthy relationships in their lives. How do you know if your relationship is healthy? If you're not in a relationship, do you know what characteristics to look for in another person and how to create a strong bond

According to relationship experts, Drs. John and Julie Gottman, building a sound relationship is much like building a sound house. "The weight-bearing walls of the house and the foundation of a quality relationship, are trust and commitment. A sound relationship house isn't built in a day. It's constructed brick by brick. How you decorate it is up to you - every couple is completely unique- but the levels are fundamental." Below are seven signs of a healthy relationship:

1. You are equal partners – You both have a say in the relationship. One partner doesn’t see themselves as better or more powerful in the relationship. You make decisions together and openly discuss whatever you’re dealing with, like relationship problems and sexual choices.
2. You have mutual respect - Partners in love think highly of each other, despite their flaws. They appreciate each other’s dignity, values, and decisions whether they agree or not. They can set boundaries about what they’re comfortable with, and those boundaries are respected.
3. You trust each other - Strong couples trust each other in numerous areas such as finances, parenting, and faithfulness. Predictability, dependability, and faith in one’s partner are all indicators of a trusting connection.
4. You communicate honestly & openly – Healthy communication requires respect and empathy. Partners must be active listeners and apply the principle of listening to understand and not listening to reply. This type of listening creates a deeper understanding of what is communicated, contributing to a healthier relationship.
5. You support each other – You encourage each other to keep growing and are supportive of one another’s goals. When something negative happens, you and your partner offer each other comfort and support. You also spend time apart to have some alone time, meet with friends, and pursue your own interests.
6. You have fun together –You and your partner enjoy each other’s company. Life isn’t always a party, but your relationship is happy and you have fun together most of the time.
7. You’re not afraid to speak up - Both partners can gently bring up an issue of concern, rather than communicating harshly with criticism. You can resolve conflict without feeling belittled, judged, or ignored.

Samaritan Counseling Center offers resources to help you gain the skills to build healthy relationships and mend those that need repair.

• Individual counseling
• Couples counseling
• Classes to help survivors of Domestic Violence heal and maintain a healthy lifestyle and relationships.

We are here to help. Call us at 909-985-0513 to schedule an appointment.]]>